Find Your Power And Use It Wisely

Quite possibly one the juiciest pillars of all in The Breakthrough Formula is The Strengths Pillar.
 
My clients have so many breakthroughs at this point in the programme, and the relief they experience is cathartic.
 

Uncover Your Emotional Strength

When we uncover our emotional strengths we also reveal our some of our weaknesses too and that’s okay. This kind of information will allow us to take the path of least resistance every time.
 
When you uncover your emotional strengths you’ll discover how to work with them.

This kind of self-understanding is essential in helping you:

 
  • Stay in-control of your thoughts and feelings as you make decisions that affect your day-to-day life
  • Keep you calm, relaxed and positive regardless of what challenges life throws your way
  • Achieve all the health, wealth and happiness you desire
  • And to help maintain that a new relaxed way of being that’ll have a positive knock on effect within all your relationships
Lets’ explain in little more detail.
 
A emotional strength is like a personal characteristic or quality. Its something that you do that makes you feel energised or in flow with your surroundings, it is something you naturally do and have the potential to make it your biggest asset
 
It’s shown in the way you think, behave and feel; when identified and applied consciously, it helps you to respond positively to any challenges your faced with and to optimize your day-to-day life.
 

Optimising your strengths also comes with a warning.

 
There is a down side to optimising your strengths and that is when over used your strength can become a weakness in other areas of your life.
 
An over used emotional strength is when you misuse this quality in the wrong way, at the wrong time or in the wrong situation.
 
Learning to recognise your emotional strengths and put them to good use will help you manage, and become aware of overdoing your strengths.
 
You’ll learn a lot about your levels of stress and anxiety through your emotional strengths.
 
The Strength Spectrum is one of the Seven Pillars that make up The Breakthrough Formula. If you’d like to find out how you can make anxiety your friend, get in touch via the page.
 
Sarah

What’s Knicker Elastic Got To Do With It?

We’ve all got one.

You know that friend that looks completely un-phased when life chucks her a big fat juicy lemon.  She doesn’t fall down or walk around with a sour look on her face.

No, she takes the lemon and makes that proverbial glass of lemonade.

You know that girl I’m referring too? We all know at least one like her.

She’s resilient like the elastic in a new pair of knickers.

Pings back into shape without a sideways glance.

Why is that?

First thing that’s springs to most people's mind when I ask this questions is, its in her DNA, it’s a trait and she must have been born with it. Then, following on from that the next thing people tend to say is, she has had a charmed existence and been protected from life’s knocks. So its easier for her.

Rarely does anyone say its because she’s learned how to respond positively to situations she finds herself in whether she likes that situation or not.

People learn how to bounce back after a knock, just like those toys that wobble but don’t fall down, Weebles.

This kind of learned response is called resilience. Resilience isn’t just your ability to bounce back from life’s knocks, but also your capacity to adapt in the face of challenging circumstances, whilst maintaining stable mental and emotional wellbeing.

Resilience is a learned behaviour, which means you can be resilient just like that girl we mentioned earlier.

You can have that capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; that emotional toughness that helps you to recover from illness, change, or misfortune.

And I can show you how in The Breakthrough Formula.

Those of us that build up our emotional strength are less likely to suffer from anxiety, fears, phobias, stresses, and depression. We are also less likely to have habits and behaviours such as, over exercising, over eating, over spending (yes I see you), gambling, drinking one too many regularly, speeding when you think no-one is watch and drug taking.

And of course those of us that build up our emotional strength will model resilience to our children, making the next generations mental health and well-being stronger.

If you want ot find out more about The Breakthrough Formula get in touch and we’ll book a time to chat, this could be just what you’re looking for.

Sarah

sarah@positivelyblooming.com

If I had the confidence I would … [fill in the blank]

If I had the confidence I would … [fill in the blank]

Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been sharing with you some personal and professional stories from The Breakthrough Formula. And this week I thought I’d share with you one exercise that’ll help you gauge where your self-confidence levels are on The Confidence Spectrum.

So give yourself ten-minutes now and discover if your confidence could use a boost.

Ready? Let’s go…

Answer these questions as honestly as you can without over thinking them.

How do you view yourself?

No honestly, how do you view yourself?

Make a note now, write a few lines, a paragraph, or go for it and fill the page.

Then read it, back what does it say?

Do others view you the same way?

The answer to the last question is probably NO.

It’s really easy for us to view ourselves in a negative light. It's easy to see our flaws, our imperfections, and all those things we dislike about ourselves that others rarely see.

Now give yourself an appraisal, just like your manager would at work. Write it down. And read it back to yourself, what does it say?

Compare the two and tell me is your view of yourself honest?

Distorted? Positive? Negative? Supportive?

The bigger the discrepancy between how you view yourself and how others view you the lower your self confidence is likely to be.

Your self-confidence does not need to be really low in order for you to start feeling out of control. For you to start feeling anxious. For you to start being held back in your life, your work and your relationships.

Your confidence will take a dip every time you view yourself in a negative light. Or believe yourself to not be capable to a given situation or to keep telling yourself you don’t know the answer.

Your confidence level dives when your grumble at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself your not worthy, likable, bright or that you are or have been a bad person at one time or another.

Your self-confidence is a reflection of how you view yourself, your self-esteem, and your self-evaluation. It’s not based on how others see you.

Nor is it based on the truth.

Your self-confidence has to come from within for it to be long lasting and worthwhile. Having someone ‘give’ you confidence is all well and good but…

Let me explain.

Now I have a lovely husband, he is very kind and supportive BUT if he tells me I'm lovely or I look nice in that outfit and I feel like rubbish, I won't listen.

I won't believe what he says

I'll dismiss it.

I go with my own thoughts; after all they are stronger, more reliable, more predictable.

So if I think I look rubbish and then I’ll feel rubbish regardless of what he (or anyone else) says.

Supposing I did listen to him, well relying on others to lift yourself self-confidence won't help you long term.

Only ever in the moment.

So it’s good I don't rely on him (or anyone else) for my self-confidence, what if he wasn't there one day or was so busy he didn't compliment me or add any value to my sense of self?

Where would that leave me?

Self confidence has to come from within, you need to view yourself positively, be supportive, and be kind, process all that you do. Even when you don't get the outcome you think you want.

Your self-confidence needs to be constantly charged up, just like the battery on your phone. You easily keep that charged without thinking about it too much don't you?

That's what I want you to be doing with your self-confidence. Keep topping it up like that battery on your phone until it becomes second nature to you.

Here's one thing you can do everyday.

Everyday from now on make sure you process the effort you've put in to your day.

Whether that’s being on time for the school run, work or college. Planning your meals, packing your healthy lunch. Answering your emails, making those calls. Getting on top of the ironing and walking the dog.

Each thing your process in a helpful and supportive way will boost you confidence levels and change the way you view your self.

Process it, process it all.

My clients often dream of being more confident but fear they can only have that confidence if they loose weight first or pass an exam, get a pay rise and drive a better car, live somewhere different, have lots of friends or get lots of likes on Facebook or Instagram.

So you can imagine the relief when I tell them they can have all the confidence they desire without the added pressure of achieving the above first.

And usually the things in the list above naturally follow on or no longer matter to them.

It’s not their fault, this gross misunderstanding of where confidence comes from, its not your either.

If no one has ever taught you this stuff how would you ever know?

We aren’t born knowing, the same as we aren’t born with or without confidence.   Its learned, it acquired as we go through life.  During our time together we re-learn confidence one step at a time, and we build it from within first and foremost.

Confidence comes quicker than you could ever possibly imagine. My clients often report feeling much more confident after our initial consultation and by session four their faces are somehow lighter, brows smoother, shoulders more relaxed, their posture changes.

They quickly and easily find their own confidence and it’s a wonderful thing to see the transformation-taking place.

The exercise above, I hope you have a go at it. To start with you may find it difficult, processing all the tiny little things you do. and are in the habit of dismissing.  That's probably because you, your family and society in general expect you to do these every day things and it can be hard ‘blowing your own trumpet'.

But think about that for a second why do you not process every little achievement you make?

Was it because you were brought up believing no one likes a big head?

Or that it’s not socially acceptable to boost about your achievements?

Maybe verbalising your achievements might make someone else close to you feel bad.   So you end up stopping altogether. And you start to dismiss these tiny little day-to-day things.  And wait for the bigger stuff to materialise or someone else to compliment your achievement.

You don’t need to open the window for all to hear and shout out I am amazing today I’ve cleaned the oven.   Although in my house cleaning to oven would be an amazing thing to have happened.  You just need to tell yourself you’ve done alright.  With the time you had, the information you have to hand in that moment and the energy levels you have to day, you’ve done your best.

A realistic, positive and supportive appraisal of the day.

This little set back you might be experiencing, this lack of confidence is easy to beat, you just need to know how and that’s what we do in The Confidence Spectrum, one of the seven pillars we walk through in The Breakthrough Formula.

Make a start with that exercise today and let me know how you get on with it, I'd really love to know and look forward to hearing from you.

Email me: sarah@positivelyblooming.com

I’m on about Freedom but not the Wham song from the 90’s

I'm on about Freedom but not the Wham song from the 90's .
 
I'm on about freedom from those crippling bouts of anxiety, the ones where you feel sick to pit of your stomach and want to cry.
 
Well, what if I told you there was a way for you to have freedom from those moments.
 
Would you want to know more?
 
You see, I used to feel anxious and 'on the spot' around authority figures. At school it was the teachers and older kids from the cool group.
 
Freedom from social anxietyAt work it was management meetings and presentations, sometime even getting up from my desk and walking across the open office floor would do it. I’ve always hated the feeling of being criticised, so at work I’d work really hard at being good and getting things right.
 
When I fell pregnant, the anxious feeling came when it was time to make decisions about my care, if I asked questions I automatically felt stupid for not know the answers and ‘putting them out’. I guess this was a throw back to my school days in the classroom.
 
As a new Mother those anxiety levels would escalate. Especially if was I was walking into a well-established Mother and baby group. I’d sometimes blush or stutter when talking to people, or say the wrong thing, or at least think I’d say the wrong thing. So I’d say very little. I’d be the quite one in the corner, trying not to look awkward.
 
It got to the point where I’d start to avoid social events because I felt uncomfortable. I’d make up excuses in my head not to go to that baby group coffee morning or keep up the baby class. Telling myself its baby’s time to sleep and attending wouldn’t put him out of routine and I wouldn’t want that.
 
Have you even done that, made excuses to avoid the feeling of anxiety?
 
My social circle as a new parent got steadily smaller and smaller.
 
I reached a place where I knew I had to overcome these feelings, that they had taken over and made life miserable. And that was when I changed my life for the better. That’s when I invested in my emotional health and well-being.
 
Mental health can be a bit of a taboo subject. A topic that gets brushed under the carpet, it can feel shameful, leave you feeling guilty, incapable and incompetent. You feel like no-one wants to listen to your troubles and just supposing they did, you don’t want to burden anyone either.
 
So you go deeper inside your mind and the issues get bigger.
You feel judged and criticised enough without spilling the beans on how you really feel and confirming their thoughts and your fears.
 
Catch twenty-two springs to mind or ever decreasing circles. I call it getting stuck inside The Anxiety Loop.
 
Over the last 10 years I’ve see this pattern repeat itself in many of my clients. Some of them are pre pregnancy; some expecting and many of them are Mothers. These issues tend to get bigger in motherhood.
 
They tell me they;
• Avoiding being centre of attention
• That making a fool of themselves is one of their worst fears
• Often feel panicky when around new people
• Need the approval of others, especially those close to them
• Go out of their way to people please
• Feel uncomfortable being semi naked in front of their partner since giving birth
• Often chose their words carefully, to make sure they say the right thing
• Go back to work and sometimes feel like a fraud and that people will see through them
• Dislike or avoid going to the toilet when other may be able to hear me
• Would just 'die of embarrassment' if I had wind in front of their peers and colleagues
• Fear pooping in labour
 
Like my clients, when they first come to see me, I couldn’t fully comprehend there was a way to be free from these uncontrollable feelings. I’d dream about a life free from anxious feelings but I honestly thought I had been born like it, it was just how it was for me and some people are just luckier than others.
 
I’d tell myself to dream on.
 
Sigh!
 
You see I didn’t know any better back then, it wasn’t my fault I just hadn’t learned how to manage my mind. So it was no wonder I kept failing. Failure was what I saw through my eyes anyway.
 
It’s okay to have and to be experiencing this kind of anxiety or something similar. Sometimes there is good reason for your anxiety BUT sometimes its old experiences, thoughts and feelings suck on repeat. Stuck in The Anxiety Loop that I mentioned earlier.
 
When it gets to bad for us to cope with alone we are encouraged to go to the GP, The doctor might prescribe antidepressants or tell you to self refer to your local talking therapies service. Not wanting to medicate you feel there is some hope with the local talking therapies service only to be told the wait list is long and for you to overcome your anxiety will take time.
 
Deflating isn’t it having that rug pulled from under you again, where do you do from here?
 
Be kind to yourself someone once said to me when I was at my worst. I didn’t know how to be kind to myself and even if I did, I didn’t think I deserved kindness. After all I been so crap at everything it felt like a bit of wash out.
 
Just think positively, someone else said. I tried this, it was okay when left to my own devises but when I put myself back in those situations my anxiety ignited, bigger and stronger than ever, It was just another thing that didn’t work. Another thing that cemented my belief further that this was just how it is for me.
 
The official terminology for these feelings is social anxiety. Some of us are more predisposed to suffering social anxiety than others BUT that doesn’t mean you still have to suffer.
Let me repeat that bit. Just because you are more prone to social anxiety doesn’t mean you have to suffer with it.
So you can breathe a big sigh of relief.
 
Now if you resonate with any of what I have written above and you want to be free for these feeling once and for all, know there is a way forward for you and over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing more information on how you can do this once and for all.
 
Just like I have.
 
Freedom from those uncontrollable unnecessary bouts of anxiety, sound good?
 
Freedom from social anxietyThe Freedom Spectrum is one of the Seven Pillars that I’ll walk you through in The Breakthrough Formula. A formula that is unique to you that’ll show you how to make anxiety your friend.
 
Email me sarah@positivelyblooming.com to find out how The Breakthrough Formula can help you.

Do you tell yourself the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

Do you tell yourself the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
 
At first you might say YES or course I do. What would be the point in lying to myself?
 
And I would be first to agree I tell myself the truth.
 
But when we start to examine the words we use, the thoughts we have and the way in which we respond to situations, we start to uncover a whole web of lies.
 
The thing is we do lie to ourselves, often. We don’t mean to. In-fact we don’t even know we are doing it half the time and we don’t it in good faith.
 
When was the last time you told yourself you can't do something?
 
Or that XYZ wasn’t for people like you.
 
Or maybe you’ll always be this way its just how it is?
 
These words, these, thoughts, these responses to situations are lies.
 
Anxiety Breakthrough FormulaI used to tell myself; I’d always have difficulty ordering food in a restaurant. I couldn’t bear the thought of someone judging my food choices and I’d often say “I’ll have the same thanks”. And then hope they wouldn’t look at me whilst I was eating it.
 
If I had to make an important phone call or an appointment, I’d put it off feeling scared of talking on the phone and getting it wrong or sounding daft.
 
When shopping I’d get hot waiting in line to pay and have to check my money ten times over before handing it over.
 
Getting hotter and hotter, flush in the face.
 
I’d be overly self-aware in public places.
 
And die if had to walk past people I didn’t really know in the corridors at work. Crossing my arms, or closing my shoulders, lowering my face. If I couldn’t see them, they couldn’t see me, right?
 
And crowded spaces were to be AVOIDED at all costs. I’d feel the panic rise up in me. The shortness of breath, the increased heart rate and the panicked wide eyes. Silent tears, and my thoughts in my head telling me to get out of there.
 
I’d come up with excuses to get out social situations or I’d go the other way and over prepare for every possible scenario. Details planned to a T.
 
My imagination used to be permanently on over drive, coming up with social situations and highlighting just awfully they’d be and how embarrassing it would be.
 
And it felt like the truth.
 
Like life would always be like this for me.
 
I had accepted from an early age and believed that this was my life.
 
Of course none of it was true. Nobody cared what I ate in the restaurant, they were too busy thinking about themselves.
And the lady on the other end of the phone just wanted to book the appointment correctly and move on with her busy work schedule.
 
I always paid with the right money and never took longer than was necessary so my panic at the till was uncalled for.
The crowded rooms and corridors, the social situations were just full of people going about their business, In all honestly, they probably never even noticed me.
 
So WHY did I and do people experience life in this way?
Why do we tell ourselves it's not okay to into a crowded room and talk to people we don’t really know.
 
Why do we spend our valuable time creating embarrassing scenarios in our minds and setting ourselves up to fail at the first hurdles, or in many cases not even getting off the starting blocks?
 
There is no pleasure in it. There is nothing to gain from it. Its just a way of being they somewhere along the line we accepted to be a truth for us.
 
The tension, the feeling blue, the panic attacks, the demotivation, the being held back, the tears, the quickness of breath, the red face, the stutter, the avoidance. It was all based on a lie.
 
Now this is the truth and you may find to hard swallow I know I did.
 
I argued at first.
 
But that panic attack was real. I felt it with every part of my body and was drained for days afterwards.
My face did burn and my words didn’t come out when I tried to speak.
 
Tears did silently roll down my face when I dashed out of the event and shut myself in the ladies, that feeling of panic did wash over me like an uncontrollable wave and I found it hard to breath.
 
These things did happen they were real. My anxiety, my panic and struggles were real.
 
And yes, those symptoms are real. These situations really did happen, that’s no lie BUT the trigger for them wasn’t real. The trigger for them came from the lies I had continually told myself. These lies were hidden in my words, my thoughts, and my beliefs and became bedded in my life through my actions.
 
Seriously, I created my anxiety through the misuse or I could even go so far as to say abuse of my imagination. YES the symptoms were real. There is no denying that but the cause was my imagination.
 
I can’t begin to tell you how I felt when I worked that out. It was a mixture of freedom, because if I had created it, I could learn how to un-create it. Now that excited me BUT god I felt stupid having wasted so many opportunities and avoided so many social situations because I thought I only ever told myself the truth.
 
The thoughts we have are ours to own and use as we wish too. Sometimes it’s easy than others, sometimes our thoughts are heavily influenced by external factors and sometimes we just don’t want to see the real truth.
 
Why am I telling you this?
 
Well I believe that if you can develop good self-understanding you can achieve all the things you want to in your life. If you have a good self insight you live an empowered life, one that doesn’t leave you at the mersey of others, one were you don’t have to blame other people, situation or things and one were you can be free to enjoy every moment.
 
Well almost every moment, this is life after all.
 
Can you relate?
 
Anxiety Breakthrough FormulaThe Truth Spectrum is the first of seven pillars that we walk through in The Anxiety Breakthrough Formula.
Email sarah@positivelyblooming.com to discover more.

Back to School With Confidence

It's that time of year again.  Time to buy the school shoes, label the uniform and get to bed early, ready to rise and shine.

Some children fall back into this routine easier than others.

As a Mother of two very different children I know first hand just how easy and how hard this time of year can be.  School anxiety doesn't just affect your child but has a knock on effect on the whole family.  I've also experienced this time and time again over the last 10 years working with families in schools and as a professional therapist in private practice.

To take the pressure off, and ease your family back into the school routine one of things  you can do is use our hypnotherapy MP3's.

Our Positively Blooming Kids collection of MP3'shave been written and produced by me, Sarah, I'm just a mum like you who has tried her hardest to get things right, remembered the trip money in the morning, had to manage being in two places at once, go to work, keep a happy home, solve all the issues that arise in the family and hang on to her identity, all whilst worrying that she might have gone out with her skirt still tucked in her knickers!

Sound familiar?

Well maybe its just me who worries about the skirt thing....

I guess what I'm trying to say is that its not always easy being a mum and when we worry about something our child is going through that worry can very quickly get bigger. Especially when there is emotion involved and yes there can be bucket loads of emotion when it involves our off spring.

Sometimes things go beyond our control and we feel quite powerless to make it better and that's our primary role isn't it? And when you can't kiss this one better, just like you did when your child had a little graze on their knee, you feel like a failure and on top of all that the darn problem is still there. And your beautiful baby, yes baby even if he/she does tower over you now, they still need a little bit of help.

Now you feel guilty, powerless to help, you've tried just about everything and still this 'thing' is still there....well now you can STOP...take a big long slow deep breath and RELAX because the Positively Blooming Kids MP3 downloads are effective, easy to use, fun to listen to...and can be used over and over again or just when its needed.

After searching high and low for a solution, congratulations you just found it. After years and years of working as hypnotherapist, psychotherapist and in a primary school. I have combined my knowledge and come up with a series of MP3 downloads to take the edge of everyday issues our children face, like school anxiety, fussy eating, bed wetting, exam nerves, nail biting and building self esteem & confidence.

Along with this we offer a series of 1-2-1 sessions to support you and your family through difficult times.  These sessions are now delivered by me and my colleagues in Essex, London, Nottinghamshire and Lincolnshire so no matter what your child’s worries are, together we can resolve them.

So lets put those worries aside and build a confident child...

Back to School with Confidence  (5Yrs +) 

Our School Confidence MP3 (5Yrs +) is for KS1 and lower KS2 children. It is a story based relaxation that is an effective and hugely beneficial way to help build up school confidence by reducing the anxiety that surrounds your child's school life.

This is story based MP3 is ideal for younger primary aged children who are struggling with the routine of school. Our school confidence MP3 download focuses on getting up and getting ready for school in the morning by aiding a good nights sleep, building up your child's confidence with making friends easily, playing games and finding it easy to focus on the work set by the teacher during the school day.

It makes sense to nip school anxiety in the bud before it builds up into a bigger issue. Our school confidence MP3 download prevents your child from dwelling or any negative experiences and focuses on their strengths.

Every child deserves the oportunity to thrive in school and achieve their best, our MP3 allows your child to focus on achieving their goals.

Here at Positively Blooming Kids we use a combination of relaxation and visualisation to help combat those worries, allowing your child to achieve their potential without allowing stress and anxiety affect their school performance.

Help your child achieve their potential during their primary years and nip those worries in the bud no matter how long they have been there.

All our MP3's are professionally written by Sarah an experience cognitive behavioural therapist, children & teens hypnotherapist and early years practitioner.

School Confidence MP3 (KS1&2) BUY NOW £15

Back to School with Confidence (8 Yrs +)

Our School Confidence MP3 (8 Yrs +) is for children & Teens upper KS2 and above. It is a suggestion therapy based relaxation that is an effective and hugely beneficial way to feel calm and confident before, during and after school.

It makes sense to nip school anxiety in the bud before it builds up into a bigger issue. Our school confidence MP3 download prevents your child from dwelling or any negative experiences and focuses on their strengths.

Every child deserves the oportunity to thrive in school and achieve their best, our MP3 allows your child to focus on achieving their goals.

Here at Positively Blooming Kids we use a combination of relaxation and visualisation to help combat those worries, allowing your child to achieve their potential without allowing stress and anxiety affect their school performance.

Help your child achieve their potential during their school years and nip those worries in the bud no matter how long they have been there.

All our MP3's are professionally written by Sarah an experience children and teens hypnotherapist and early years practitioner.

School Confidence MP3 (Upper KS2,3&4) BUY NOW £15

Exam Confidence for The Eleven Plus, GCSE or A-Level

Some children thrive when under pressure where as some just buckle under due to the stress and strain that builds up as that important exam or test date approaches.

Nerves can set in before an exam or test due to anticipatory anxiety, usually there is a lot riding on the results and the imagined scenarios of what will happen if I pass or fail can often be worse than sitting the test or exam itself.

Worrying about the exam content, the time pressure and the fear of staring blankly at the page can can cause undue stress and in turn will not show your child's true capabilities to shine through.

This leads to frustration making them feel like the whole thing could be a wast of time, rather than enjoying the chance to show case their knowledge and capabilities.

Symptoms suffered can vary from person to person but mostly include;

  • Anxiety in the run up to the test or exam
  • Butterflies in you tummy
  • Feeling or being sick
  • Dry mouth
  • Trembling hands whilst writing
  • Your mind going blank when recalling answers
  • Fear of speaking in front of examiners in an oral exam
  • Repeatedly feeling the need to wee

If your child suffers any or all of these things they can bring untold pressure and quite often it's down to lack of confidence and belief in themselves when under pressure.

Here at Positively Blooming Kids we use a combination of relaxation and visulisation to help combat those nerves, allowing your child to achieve their potential without allowing stress and anxiety affect their performance.

Our Exam Confidence MP3 download is an effective and hugely beneficial way tohelp with exams, by reducing exam anxiety and pre test nerves. This is ideal for those taking tests in preparation for grammar school or those taking common entrance exams this September.

It makes sense to curb those nerves before any test or exam dates as you have put so much time and effort into your preparation you will want to insure you get the result you deserve, not one marred by the build up of stress, anxiety and nerves.

Our exam confidence download is hugely beneficial by boost your chances and increasing your confidence, don’t let the stress, nerves and anxiety obscure your chance to shine.

Help your child achieve their potential without allowing their stress and anxiety affect their performance. Our exam nerves MP3 download can be used to ease pre test nerves in the build up to exams, allowing your child to get the true result that they deserve.

Mental preparation can be just as import as academic preparation especially if your child is the type of person that goes into meltdown and the nerves take over. Quite often we only get one chance to show our true capabilities which don’t shine through on the day simply because we haven’t prepared mentally and the butterflies take over.

Exam confidence MP3 download can help prevent your child suffering with the stress and pressure that builds up before a test or exam.

Fully pepare for your exam or test today purchasing our exam confidence MP3 or by making an appointment for a one-to-one session online or at one of our locations.

EXAM CONFIDENCE MP3 BUY NOW £15

Our 1-2-1 sessions are available with me and my colleagues in Leigh on Sea, Southend Essex, central London, Nottingham and Lincoln.

During our sessions we can help you and your child with;

  • Lack of confidence
  • School Phobia
  • Bedwetting
  • Nail biting
  • School life problems
  • Aggression
  • Thumb sucking
  • Bullying
  • Stutters and stammers
  • Eating problems and disorders
  • Behavioural problems
  • School Anxiety
  • Parental break ups
  • Exam nerves
  • Fear of the dark
  • Fear of sleep due to nightmares
  • ADHD
  • Autism
  • Fear of the dentist
  • Anxiety
  • Fear of dogs
  • New additions to the family
  • Skin problems
  • Self harming
  • emetophobia in children

At all times during the sessions, your child must be accompanied by a parent or guardian,  these sessions are also hugely beneficial to you as they help the you overcome your worries you have for your child.

Please feel free to contact me on 07908 765745 or via email sarah@positivelyblooming.com for a chat to discuss how therapy will help your child.

Feedback From Our Families - Be sure to let us know how the MP3 has helped you!

"I was at the end of my tether when I found your site, I downloaded the school anxiety MP3 for my 6year old, she loves it, its just taken the edge off what was a nightmare every morning before school. Thank you"  - S, London

"Sarah has work wonders with my daughter, i can't express the relief and joy seeing my daughter taking control of her life again and that thanks to help and support of Sarah and the great work she does. Thank you" - A, London

"Hi Sarah, G seems to be improving now she's gained a little more confidence and has taken a part in a school play she's got one of the main parts it's giving her a focus and the MP3 really brought her out of herself a little, many thanks  - G, Grimsby

"After having a massive meltdown the day before an important exam Sarah definitely came to my rescue. With fantastic advice with how the chill out and listening to one of her MP3 download tracks definitely helped me through it. I'm not sure I would have made it out of my major stress without her. I kept calm and cool and all thanks to her help managed to pass my exam! Thank you for being wonderful and d stopping the stress taking over xxx" -  C, Rayleigh

"I was able to calm and relax myself today before my GCSE exam using the techniques you taught me and listening to my MP3 and I am able to talk myself out of getting anxious now in any situation too" - H, Lincoln

"I cant believe the changes in G, she has even got a boyfriend, its great to have my daughter back." - M, London

"Hi I can't thank you enough Sarah for the work you have done with O you have helped her to make so many positive changes in her life. The transformation has been truly wonderful so see and can't recommend you enough. x" - J, Lincoln

Self Esteem And Confidence Building for Mums And Mums-to-be

Self Esteem And Confidence Building for Mums And Mums-to-be

Take part in this exercise to see how different those evaluations are, the bigger the difference the more we can build your self esteem.


How do you view yourself?

No honestly, how do you view yourself?

Make a note, a few lines, a paragraph, fill the page.

Now read it, back what does it say?

Do others view you the same way?

The answer is probably NO.

Its really easy for us to view ourselves in a negative light. It's easy to see our flaws, our imperfections, all those things we dislike about ourselves that others rarely see.

Now give yourself an appraisal, just like your manager would at work. Write it down. Now read it, back what does it say?

Compare the two and tell me Is your view of yourself honest? distorted? positive? negative? supportive?

The bigger the discrepancy between how you view yourself and how others view you the lower your self esteem is likely to be.

Your self esteem does need to be really low for you to start feeling out of control. For you to start feeling anxious. For you to start being held back in your life, your work and your relationships.

Your self esteem is how you view yourself, not how others see you. Your self esteem has to come from within.

Let me explain why.

Now I have a lovely husband, he is very kind and supportive BUT if he tells me I'm lovely or I look nice in that outfit and I feel like rubbish, I won't listen.

I won't believe what he says

I'll dismiss it.

I go with my own thoughts, after all they are stronger, more reliable, more predictable.

So if I think I look rubbish and then i'll feel rubbish regardless of what he ( or anyone else) says.

Supposing I did listen to him, well relying on others to lift yourself esteem won't help you long term. Only ever in the moment.

So its good I don't rely on him (or anyone else) for my self esteem, what if he wasn't there one day or was so busy he didn't compliment me.

Where would that leave me?

Self esteem has to come from within, you need to view yourself positively, be supportive, be kind and process all that you do. Even when you don't get the outcome you think you want.

Your self esteem needs to be constantly charged up, just like the battery on your phone. You easily keep that charged without thinking about it too much don't you?

That's what I want you to be doing with your self esteem. Keep topping it up like that battery on your phone until it becomes second nature to you.

Here's one thing you can do everyday.

Everyday from now on make sure you process the effort you've put in to your day.

Whether that be being on time for school, work or college. Planning your meals and packing your lunch. Answering your emails and making those calls. Getting on top of the ironing and walking the dog.

Process it, process it all.

Sarah

P.S In just a few weeks of working together you can build up a bright, shining and confident future.  Book a call and discover exactly how together we can:

  • Have you happy, relaxed motivated and positive
  • In full control of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions
  • More self aware, with a a good sense of emotional resilience
  • A strong sense of self-esteem that grows each day
  • Teach you an easy technique that’ll set you up for your day ahead, and allowing you to get the best from it.
  • Have you free of being responsive and reactive to social pressures.
  • A set of coping skills that’ll ride the wave of uncertainty in life
  • How to do this consistently and persistently for maximum results
  • Be your best friend

If you’re ready to build your confidence, book that call and discover exactly how we achieve this over the next few weeks working together.

Book here: https://sarahbrent.as.me/letschat

Let’s talk about sleep and insomnia…

Let's talk about sleep and insomnia...

Do you agree or disagree to these statements ?

1. I need 8 hours of sleep to feel refreshed and function well during the day.

2. When I don't get the proper amount of sleep on a given night, I need to catch up on the next day by napping or on the next night by sleeping longer.

3. I am concerned that chronic insomnia may have serious consequences on my physical health.

4. I am worried that I may lose control over my abilities to sleep.

5. After a poor night’s sleep, I know that it will interfere with my daily activities on the next day.

6. In order to be alert and function well during the day, I believe I would be better off taking a sleeping pill rather than having a poor night’s sleep.

7. When I feel irritable, depressed, or anxious during the day, it is mostly because I did not sleep well the night before.

8. When I sleep poorly on one night, I know it will disturb my sleep schedule for the whole week.

9. Without an adequate night’s sleep, I can hardly function the next day.

10. I can’t ever predict whether I’ll have a good or poor night’s sleep.

11. I have little ability to manage the negative consequences of disturbed sleep.

12. When I feel tired, have no energy, or just seem not to function well during the day, it is generally because I did not sleep well the night before.

13. I believe insomnia is essentially the result of a chemical imbalance.

14. I feel insomnia is ruining my ability to enjoy life and prevents me from doing what I want.

15. Medication is probably the only solution to sleeplessness.

16. I avoid or cancel obligations (social, family) after a poor night’s sleep.

If you agreed with more than a few of these statements get in touch and lets arrange a time to chat because we can improve your insomnia is just a few sessions.

Pregnancy Insomnia affects 79% of expectant Mums and can affect them throughout all three trimesters. Sleep disorders are among the most widespread major problems experienced in pregnancy. Pregnancy Insomnia is when you have difficulty sleeping or you're not getting enough sleep when you have the opportunity to do so. Pregnancy Insomnia can be experienced in different ways.

You could be suffering from Pregnancy Insomnia if your symptoms include:

  • Difficulty getting to sleep; finding it hard to nod off at night time
  • Difficulty getting to sleep; finding it hard to nod off at night time
  • Interrupted sleep or disturbed sleep. Awaking from sleep in the middle of the night; and sometimes finding it hard to get back to sleep.
  • Awaking from sleep too early, and being unable to get back to sleep
  • Not feeling refreshed by sleep – this is usually due to a disturbed sleeping pattern.
  • Not being able to concentrate the next day due to a lack of sleep
  • Feeling fatigued due to disturbed sleep
  • Feeling irritable due to a lack of sleep

What are the causes of insomnia?

The main causes of insomnia are stress, anxiety, depression and excessive worry. Sometimes the insomnia only lasts for a short spell perhaps a few weeks ( this is called transient insomnia); in other more severe cases the insomnia or sleep difficulty can last for an extended period of time, perhaps months or even years (this is often referred to as chronic insomnia).

In many cases Insomnia can be maintained even after the initial cause of the stress and anxiety has passed. Once our sleep pattern is interrupted the insomnia or difficulty sleeping can become a focal point for anxiety, and the harder a person tried to get off to sleep, the less they are able to do so.

Pregnancy is one of the most important periods in your life. Despite pregnancy being a natural phenomenon, it is accompanied by many major changes, physically, emotionally, mentally and socially. These unknown and at times, uncontrollable changes, can create fears, worries and anxious thoughts in our minds. These thoughts set off the stress response in our bodies and that stress response further aggravates those anxious thoughts. Before you know it you are caught up in cycle that seems impossible to break.

High stress levels in pregnancy can:

  • Shorten your sleep duration
  • Produce poor sleep
  • Increase the time spent awake at night

Poor sleep can be common in pregnant women throughout all three of the trimesters. Each trimester can bring about a new set of concerns or magnify those that are already there. The knock on effect of poor sleep feeds in to your day-to-day stress levels and you can easily find yourself in habitual cycle, feeling helpless to break it.

Evidence indicates that serve loss of sleep in pregnancy can be associated with adverse pregnancy outcome such as:

  • Prenatal depression
  • Gestational diabetes
  • Pre-eclampsia
  • Abnormal length of labor
  • Cesarean delivery
  • Alteration in fetal growth
  • Preterm birth

Lack of ability to sleep throughout pregnancy can be avoid by reducing your fears, worries and anxious thoughts. You can reduce your symptoms by using purposeful hypnosis. Hypnosis like many other products and services out their provides a 'sticky plaster' and reduces the symptoms but does not deal with the cause.

Our Complete Guide to Hypnobirthing contains MP3's that will assist you with you sleep. Our hypnobirthing MP3's focus on relaxation and re-framing your thoughts for a more relaxed and comfortable nights sleep. .

Alternatively, you can deal with the root cause of you anxiety and eliminate anxious thoughts from your mind for good with The Anxiety Breakthrough Formula which incorporates a framework from CBTi.

We do this by learning how you unwittingly maintain and create your anxiety. This self insight is invaluable not just for your sleep during pregnancy, but also managing your baby's birth and the many new challenges being a new Mum will bring. Gaining self insight now will help you to view any new situations with perspective and reduce the amount of stress you carry in your body. The Anxiety Breakthrough Formula is a unique programme that sets you up for a positive birth and positive truly empowering start to motherhood.

CBTI for Pregnancy Insomnia & Sleep Problems in Pregnancy

If you are having trouble sleeping get in touch with me today by booking a completely complimentary call, during the call we can find out what's going on and plan the best way forward for you.

Book a time to chat here: https://sarahbrent.as.me/letschat

Read Kath's story here...

“I was so down [with my insomnia] when i started with Sarah but I was put completely at ease. Only a few weeks later i feel a different person! Definitely worth it.

Kath, Essex.

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National Sleep Foundation. Summary of Findings of the 2007 Sleep in America Poll. Available at: http://sleepfoundation.org/media-center/press-release/ sleep-america-poll-summary-findings.

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