I recently read a thread on an antenatal educator group I belong to and it shocked me!
The comment was something along the lines of 'Birth it seems has two options medical or hypnobirth. Why can’t women just be aloud to birth? Why do they have to be denied their own capabilities!"
Well as you can imagine it caused quite a storm, one that’s still raging now but what was it that shocked me?
Two things, firstly, that this particular antenatal educator knew nothing about hypnobirthing if she did she wouldn't have made that comment.
Secondly, my own assumption that because I know everyone else must know what hypnosis is and what having a hypnobirth really means.
So on recognising this really isn't the case I thought I'd take sometime out to tell you what hypnobirthing is to me.
It seems that the majority of people when they think of hypnosis, think of a stage hypnotist mesmerizing the poor unsuspecting member of the audience and making him or her do silly things - well that just ain't real!
That is quiet simply an entertainers illusion, after all no one can make someone do something that they do not want to do, have you ever got someone to do something against their will? With this in mind its no wonder that people think in hypnobirthing they will be under someone else’s control, don’t know about you but that would put me right off.
So what is this hypno-business then you may well ask. Well its simple, its all about allowing yourself to get into a deep state of relaxation, where your breathing is deep and calm, your mind and body are working with you as opposed to having a row with you. Where your rational brain is working freely and your emotional brain isn’t getting the way.
A state of deep relaxation that you control yourself, there is no IT controlling YOU because IT is YOU. And you can take it to where you want too, wherever you need too, depending on your birthing circumstances.
And lets face it, in birth that could be anywhere as there are so many varying factors that effect birth. I for one couldn't possibly say where you’d end up with it as I don't own a time machine and I bet you don't either – no I didn't think you did!
But I do no one thing and that is that what ever type of birth you have you will manage better having refreshed and learnt to ulitise these innate skills you have which are largely left untapped into on a day to day basis.
So in answer to that educator’s question…Are there really only two options when it comes to birth?
No, there is only one way to birth and that’s your way! And if you choose to use hypnobirthing to remind you of something that you do naturally day in and day out without even realizing it, to remind you of your strength, your capabilities and your confidence so you can birth your baby the best way you can then that’s great.
Knowledge is power and a good hypnobirth antenatal class should provide you with that so you can be allowed to birth and reach your own individual potential.
So if you know someone that could do with being reminded about their strength, capability and find their birthing confidence share this with them so they can get in touch!