I always start my hypnobirthing workshops explaining to my clients that birth is 10% what happens and 90% how you feel about it. Holly, Tom and baby Edith's story is perfect example of that. I'll say no more and let Holly beautifully explain whilst sharing her birth story..
Good evening Sarah,I hope you're well, I have been most looking forward to writing this to you as I introduce to you our beautiful Edith Grace Haddock who joined our world Wednesday 3rd May at 17:14.
So, an average maternity leave day involving some hardcore nesting and resting on Tuesday 2nd May. Come 3:30pm I had just waved Tom (my husband) off to work for his night shift. Half an hour later my contractions started. At first I thought I just needed the toilet and it was a jippy belly until things began to worsen. I went to my giant bouncy sit on ball to help the numbing feeling in my hips and thighs and ran a bath. It got to 6pm and things were just getting worse so I called Tom on his work phone (emergencies only!) and advised him to stay at work and I'll update him in the meantime I'll speak to the hospital. 8pm went by and things were progressing and I soon started to realise after speaking with the hospital that this wasn't Braxton Hicks! Tom came home from work and we waited until 10pm before I felt it was the right time to be examined. Throughout the then into contractions I was using my hypnobirthing techniques but not using the Birth MP3 as yet so as to save it for established labour.
We arrived at the hospital for 10pm and I was examined by a midwife on shift. By this point I was 2cm dilated and it was confirmed it wasn't Braxton Hicks! We had the choice if we wanted to stay at the hospital or continue at home so we felt it was best to go home and that way I could fully start my hypnobirthing and relaxation in the bath. Once home I filled the bath with lavender oil and popped on Eastenders from that night to catch up on. I remember Sarah telling us to have some of our favourite programmes prerecorded so that we could concentrate on this through the early stages of labour. I relaxed ever so still in the bath and gave it an hour until I returned to my giant bouncy ball!Time went by, Sarah's Pregnancy MP3 had been on multiple times and I was managing to steadily breath through every contraction. Unfortunately, I suffered SPD from 14 weeks of my pregnancy so the contractions took a direct hit at my pelvis and hips which made things extremely uncomfortable!
It was soon 2am and we decided it was time to leave for the hospital to continue the labour. We were met by Francis a lovely bank staff midwife who took my observations and helped us through the lateral stages of labour where I was now 5cm dilated. The contractions continued and my body began to breakdown and I was sleeping and snoring through contractions! Drs wanted to put me on a drip and i refused and we continued! Before I knew it, it was 7am Wednesday morning and I was still contracting every 3 mins, breathing my way through slowly and calmly. We then had a new midwife called Fran who joined us on the shift change. By this point I was completely in control of my surges, Fran couldn't believe what she was watching and really enjoyed witnessing hypnobirthing! The atmosphere was calm even though we could hear other women screaming in the corridors. I didn't let that phase me! At this point I went onto gas & air as my surges were one after the other but the gas helped improve my hypnobirthing method by taking control of my labour experience!By midday I was 8cm dilated and desperate to push, after 4 hours of this a dr came in to give her advice, following that another 4 Drs came in. The atmosphere completely changed and suddenly became very stressful, lots of different options were being thrown at me and I started to think i was being forced into a decision that wasn't in my plan. The Drs wanted to perform a c section. I soon became extremely disappointed sand frustration with the option of a c section as I'd gone 20 hours of labour on my own already and felt I could still do the rest. At this point the atmosphere was out of my control. A female dr explained to me that Baby isn't happy and they couldn't have got me in the operating theatre quick enough! I didn't like to know my baby was in destress when something could have been done about it.
I was then taken into theatre and an epidural was done whilst have two more surges! I kept my hypnobirthing going in my head and Tom continued to support me through this with the help of hypnobirthing. The Drs performing the operation kept me talking and laughing throughout and within minutes Edith had graced us with her presence. Tom was then taken to see her and cut the cord and I continued to be as calm and positive as possible. Then I heard Edie cry and that's when everything fell into place, my world and dream had arrived!
The whole operation took roughly 45mins and before I knew it I was in a room in the Labour Ward having skin to skin contact with my new, beautiful daughter. The hypnobirthing worked!!! My mum has not stopped complementing me on how well I did and not using any interventions other then a little gas & air towards the end. I feel have a positive birth story because I had control of the room in which I was in, the pain in which I was suffering and the decisions I was making. Even during my c section I was able to control myself. During a surge I felt like the quicker I could control my body the quicker the surge left me.
I have been using my hypnobirthing throughout different scenarios in my life and without a doubt have been highly recommending it to all of my friends and family. I believe the hypnobirthing has helped during my recovery from the c section and ensuring I am calm and collected whilst suffering tenderness and pain from my stitches.
Thank you so much for the hypnobirthing advice and support you have given Tom and I! As I say everyone knows about it because of us!!! Please let me know if you will be publishing out story on your website as I'd like to share on my social media channels
We hope you're well and hope to see you again in the future!Love Holly & Tom Haddock! X